Dad also Experienced Baby Blues, Let's See How To Overcome It

Baby blues are not only experienced by mothers, you know. According to research, about 62% of fathers apparently also experience baby blues, at least for the first 4 months after the baby's birth. Come on, Daddy, find out how to handle it! The cause of baby blues on fathers can vary. But generally the risk of depression will be greater if his wife also experiences a similar condition. Unfortunately, stress on dad can be even worse because dad may not be used to expressing his feelings. Generally men are always considered to be more resilient and logical. This makes it harder for fathers to ask for help when they feel anxious and out of control. Though this is a very human thing and a solution must be sought.

Know Yourself

Father must remember that if one, let alone both parents are mentally unwell, Little can feel the negative effects. Depressed parents are generally less likely to communicate with children, let alone sing or read stories. On the contrary, they will be easier to commit violence, including to their children. To detect whether Father has baby blues, try asking yourself the following things:

• Do I lose my appetite, or vice versa, get hungry more often?
• Do I often feel unwell?
• Am I withdrawing from social interaction?
• Am I angry, trapped, or have no hope for the future?
• Did I ever think that I was not the right man to accompany my wife and child?

In addition, some fathers who experience baby blues may unconsciously change habits, such as spending more time working in the office or drinking alcoholic beverages. Even though the period after childbirth is when the mother and child really need the support of the father.

Come out of Baby Blues, Dad!

So, in order not to be stuck in the baby blues for too long, you can try to overcome them in the following ways:

• Express feelings

Dad needs to realize that harboring one's own feelings and problems will not solve the problem. Therefore, expressing feelings to others will make you understand that there is a problem with yourself, but at the same time realize that you are not alone in living it. If talking to your partner feels uncomfortable or burdensome, Dad can try to talk to other family members or closest friends. Talking with others and listening to their responses, especially those who are already parents, will help Dad to find a different perspective.

• Take care of yourself

After spending most of the time caring for your child, Father and Mother must also take care of their health by adopting a healthy diet, exercise, meditation, or doing any activities to reduce mental stress due to the role of parents, including reducing baby blues.

• Keep the routine stable

To help deal with baby blues, Dad also has to maintain daily routines, such as eating and sleeping on time. No less important, stay away from smoking or alcohol consumption when under stress, depression, or experiencing other problems in life.

• Do not push yourself

Delaying taking big decisions is better done when Dad is having baby blues. If necessary, discuss the decision with someone else you can trust. In addition, avoid doing many things at the same time, and separate large tasks into small tasks.

Various adjustments as a new parent along with other responsibilities, may be a burden on the mind for my father. For that, try to manage stress better so that this condition can be overcome soon, and not get worse. There are times when baby blues develop depression. About 10% of men in the world are detected to experience depression after their wife gives birth. Therefore, if this condition does not subside within a few weeks, it helps you consult a psychiatrist or a psychologist right away. Fathers also need to be vigilant if they are constantly anxious and exhausted, withdrawing from the family, irritable, no longer interested in doing activities that are usually fun, after the baby is born. Some of these conditions can indicate that Dad really is experiencing baby blues. Like mothers, especially new mothers, fathers also need support and reinforcement when entering an important new phase in life, namely having children. The existence of good cooperation with partners and family support, is expected to help Father and Mother remain physically and mentally healthy, so that they are ready to care for the Little One.